Sunday, January 07, 2007
Anniversary Letter (2007)
Anniversaries are complicated, aren’t they?
So much expectation, so much intent, and it feels like if you slip up or don’t do something extravagant or amazing, it means you don’t “really” love your spouse enough. How silly is that?
You’ve already given me the best of the best. Not a single day or a single bouquet or a single fabulous vacation or a single dinner at a nice restaurant. You’ve given me a dozen years (plus) of laughter and compassion, understanding and devotion. You’ve been at my side at my best - and my worst. You’ve offered your hand to steady me, to pull me, to push me, and just because I kinda like to hold it for no particular reason other than I find joy in holding it. You have given me advice, and through gritted teeth smiled as I ignored it. You’ve picked up the pieces and put them back together again when I couldn’t.
Through it all, you’ve also opened yourself up to let me offer you my hand. You’ve let me fight your battles, protect you from your parents, your work, the world, even. You have let yourself be weak so that I could be strong. You’ve fallen helplessly into my arms and let me comfort you in a way that made me feel strong and steady and brave and all the things I always see in you but don’t often recognize in myself.
We’ve fought - with each other and for each other. We’ve fought apart and by each other’s side. We’ve cried. My God have we cried. At loss. At love. From laughing too hard. From pain. From frustration. Always, the tears dried, and just like when the rain passes, our sunshine blossomed through again. Somehow, the sun always manages to shine again, even when we thought it was impossible.
I never knew what I’d be signing on for when I agreed to marry you. I only knew the giddy excitement and the nervous happiness in your eyes when the minister matched my name with yours. I only knew that when you weren’t with me, I missed you, and when you were with me things seemed easier. You’ve lessened the burdens and increased the joys. You’ve given me inside jokes and turned me inside out.
For all this and more, thank you. There is no gift, no meal, no single action that could sum up my gratitude or love, because it all spans over too many years and too many memories to fully encompass. I hope at least my words can be a small reminder, a sample of all that I feel for you.
Krush at 01/07/07 03:58 PM
Happy Anniversary Liberty & TDO! Wishes for many, many more.
Darlynn at 01/08/07 05:14 PM
Lucky man, lucky girl…here’s to many more you two!! Lots o’ love, Rob, Dar and munchkins
Desiree at 01/09/07 01:33 PM
Congratulations you two! (and what a great write up you did, Liberty, in honor of this occasion). Cheers to you both!
Jeanne at 01/09/07 06:18 PM