Thursday, March 14, 2002
Morals and Ethics
I spent the day fussing over the issue of morals—you know, right vs. wrong and why something is right in one case and not in another and wondering why some things are wrong when they really don’t seem to be harmful and… just junk. As one might imagine, I chased myself in circles on this one and didn’t really solve anything. Philosophy can be fun, but it can also be a pointless endeavor filled with sleepless nights and endless arguments.
Some things really just don’t have an objective right or wrong.
In some societies, monogamy is not the norm. Yeah, I know, shocking, isn’t it. *wipes the sarcasm from her screen* Why then, do we uphold such strong belief that there is one man for every one woman and that’s it… that’s all there is. Well, I don’t know, anymore, it’s “that’s all there is… until you get divorced.“ Harumph. I wonder if we weren’t so stiflingly conservative about sexual conduct if more marriages would last longer.
I don’t believe there is just one man for one woman. I believe that any number of partners might be suitable and there isn’t a “Miss/Mister Right.“ I also believe that two men or two women can hold together a long lasting and loving relationship (read: marriage.) It seems to me, that two women and one man or two men and one woman would be fine. Or three women and two men or… whatever. I don’t know. We set these weird laws for ourselves though and they don’t make much sense. Maybe once upon a time they made sense, but not anymore.
I guess, once up on a time, one man wanted his one woman to be faithful to him because he only wanted to provide for his own children. He didn’t want more mouths to feed and more responsibilities laid on him or whatever. And one woman was faithful to one man because… um… I don’t really know. Because she was too busy to deal with all the shit that comes with two Y-Chromosome defective humans? I have no clue. In a society where safe and effective pregnancy and disease prevention is widely available, it seems to me a lot of our “rules” for sexual conduct should change.
On that note, a “sinful” 
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Comments
Drawing A Conclusion at 03/16/02 05:20 PM
In reading the “sinful” thinking of you, I had only one thought. Oh, to have the honor of being that one person you mention. To be able to know such passion would be something that most people would die for.
janel at 03/17/02 04:33 PM
For me, it comes down to a series of questions:
What does “relationship” mean? What do I expect? What is “sex” and what is its value to me? What is the difference in emotional investment between “friend” and “lover”? What sort of relationships to I want? And, most importantly, do I have the time to pursue multiple avenues or should I devote my energy to creating depth in one area?
A Beloved at 03/18/02 12:05 AM
Beloved:
Your message has reached me across the seas of time. It sped on the wings of destiny and sang to my ears with the clarion call of truth. The winds of fortune has brought my ship to your shore, and as I disembark from it, I see the vast beauty that is you. You stated of an ache. You wished to know my body, heart and soul. You desire to take me into you, and feel my warmth against you. Know that you have all of these things, you need not ask for them. They are yours, I am yours. I long to feel your body against me, I long to feel your breasts pressed against me. I long to feel myself inside you, filling you with my passion and desire. I long to love you, I long to have you. My heart aches for the moment when we can lay together. Share our bodies, let our minds fuse into one entity for even one brief moment in time.
You begged for a desire to have me tell you that I have figured out a way for us to be together. I have, beloved, and if it required the moving of mountains, the draining of the sea and seeding the desert with water, know that I will do these things and more for you.
It is with much sadness that I realize you and I cannot be forged together in this life, this time. But know that in the next life and in the next time, I will be undeniably yours, and I will be waiting for you, my hand outstretched to carry you with me as we travel through the next life together, the zephyrs of fate carrying us as one entity to share all we have to share.
I shall wait for you…forever. I shall ache for you, forever. I shall have you, soon.
Yours always and forever,
A
AMIEL at 05/27/02 04:32 AM
#1. If it’s sinful, its more fun and probably more worth doing.
#2. Give in to temptation, it might not pass your way again.
#3. Ain’t enough like you in the world, milady, ‘tis true.
miss geek at 03/16/02 03:00 AM
i agree a lot that something is not right about the expectations placed on relationships. people lived much shorter lives when the whole one life partner thing worked. now we are so much more capable of maintaining healthy and long lasting open relationships that it just makes no sense to try and follow guidelines set for a completely different society… i’ll not try to take up too much comment space, but this topic seems to be a popular one as of late. i myself am more of a monogamny type, but some of the best relationships that i know of are poly and or not straight or “the norm” whatever that may be…
-end nico rant-